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Your chances of happiness are much greater if your plan follows the rules...

The first one’s not to get married too soon! Date by all means. Have fun. But don’t think about marriage until you’ve become a fully independent adult and developed a mature relationship with your parents. That may sound trite – but we’ve all seen how couples struggle when it hasn’t happened. Because for a marriage to succeed, a couple must place each other’s feeling above all others. Which means a different relationship with your childhood family.

The next rule’s to know yourself. Most of us never do! We just accept the things that happen to us and never ask why. You need to understand why you behave the way you do. Especially when you’re stressed. Your principles and beliefs. Why you feel the way you do. Your preferences and interests. What you believe about God. What makes you angry. Or sad. Your expectations in marriage. What motivates you.

Knowing yourself means understanding your goals and purpose in life – and what to go looking for in a partner! Because it’s important to look for someone who has similar values and interests to you. Men and women whose background, attitudes, principles and beliefs match are much more likely to be successful together.

And what should you do once you’ve found your love? Well, above all be committed to one another. There’s nothing more poisonous that the attitude ‘I’m only here until someone better turns up...’

And it may sound very politically incorrect, but the Bible’s right. A wife should give herself to her husband. Completely. He should be the most important thing in her life – even more than her children. And a man should love his wife more even than he loves himself. Putting her above all his friends and work. Both sharing a deep feeling that come what may they’ll always be together. Open and trusting. Never lying to one another. Each of their self-images developing so that they totally encompasses their partner. Single people can be totally focused on themselves. But successful couples see themselves in terms of their relationship, with shared ambitions and dreams.

And they protect their intimate lives from the demands of work and their children. Because good sex – lots of it – is the best cement there is for holding relationships together. So never neglect your partner’s physical needs. Through all of life’s disappointments and frustrations. You may never be rich. But you’ll have a deep feeling of contentment – and will always be together.