Ever wondered what your new lover is thinking the first time they see you stripped bare?
My bet is any - and probably all - of the following:
My bet is any - and probably all - of the following:
What he's thinking:
Yahoo! I'm about to have sex!
Tracey Cox reveals what goes through your partner's head (and your own) when you first strip off in front of one another
If
a naked woman is standing in front of you it means sex is on the cards,
so his first reaction is to feel mighty pleased. This is quickly taken
over by a not so pleasant thought…
Is my penis big enough?
Unlike
women, all his bits are out there and on display immediately. Which is
why he's frantically searching your face in an attempt to read any
minute micro-expression that hints he's not living up to expectations.
If he thinks he's passed this test, his next thought is another panicky
one...
Say I can't perform?
Women can fake desire, men can't. The first time you have sex is unbearably exciting but the pressure is on…him.
He's looking at your breasts:
After
all that's been filtered and processed he can finally pay attention to
what's in front of him. Time for the 'bra on vs bra off' test. You
looked great in that cleavage-boosting Victoria Secrets push-up but do
they stand up to scrutiny without the scaffolding?
He's seeing what you've done down there:
This
is a precarious moment because whether you've waxed, trimmed, kept a
'landing pad' or whipped the whole lot off, you can't please all the
people all of the time. Some men love no hair because all is revealed,
others look and instantly think of a plucked turkey.
Tracey says that it is important for both of you to have body confidence in order to have great sex
He's watching to see how body confident you are:
If
one arm flies up to hide your breasts and the other heads south to
cover down below, he knows he's in for some pretty standard sex. Stand
tall and let yourself be admired and he knows it's going to be fabulous.
What he's not noticing:
Your
weight. Unlike breasts, body size can't really be camouflaged. By the
time you're both naked, he's already got a pretty good idea of what
he'll see. Besides, he's far more interested in looking at the naughty
bits to notice whether your thighs wobble when you walk.
What she's thinking:
She's checking out your body generally:
Women
are just as lookist as men are - studies tracking eye movement show
women give men the once over physically just as much as men do women. It
doesn't mean we'll dump you if you're not sporting a six-pack but don't
kid yourself we're immune to what shape you're in.
She's comparing to see who wins the body beautiful competition:
Tracey says that while everyone appreciates a good body, we are primarily attracted to faces
If
you're in much better shape than we are, our body image issues are
kicking in big time. Ohmigod I should never had had those crisps
earlier. His legs are more shapely than mine are! Look at that bottom!
How come men's bums don't droop like women's do?
She's checking out how big you are:
But
it's the opposite to what you think: if you're over size, this works
against you! It's not true that women love men with big penises: it
often makes sex uncomfortable, even painful. So if you're average size,
feel reassured. Even if you're undersized, don't panic. So long as
you're good with your tongue, it won't matter.
She's looking to see if you have an erection:
If
you haven't, the first thing we'll think is that it's our fault.
Instantly reassure her it doesn't mean you don't fancy her now you've
seen her starkers or you'll both end up deflated.
She's watching your reaction to her nakedness:
This,
quite frankly, is concerning us more than anything else. The correct
response is your eyes lustfully travelling over our body and a 'You're
good enough to eat' expression on your face.
What is she not noticing?
Not
much! Women are better at taking in detail than men. We're more likely
to notice that mole on your back, tan line, what brand underwear you
just peeled off, your feet, your knees, how hairy you are...but don't
panic because both sexes are far more forgiving than you think.
While everyone appreciates a good looking body, people are more attracted to faces and ultimately fall for the person inside.
Daily Mail
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